Thursday, October 2, 2008

I am NOT a Barbie doll

Every man's supposed fantasy is a tall skinny blond with big boobs. A lot of people, especially if you go by Hollywood's standards, consider this to be the ultimate beauty. If you have an average sized body, darker hair, or a little short? Forget it. Oh sure, they'll call you pretty, but not in the same way they think these other women are. And I'm sick of it. I'm NOT a Barbie, and I don't want to be. I like the way I look. The fact that I have to change the way my body looks for anyone to feel better about myself is absolutely ridiculous.

It seems every girl I talk to wants to change their hair, or their body, in some way. Which would be fine if they were doing it for themselves, but when I ask why the sudden change, the reply always comes back, "Oh so and so has hair like that", or "I think this person would like me more if I did this." I just feel like slapping them and saying "Can you hear yourself? Why are you doing this just to please them?"

I know I can be accused of doing this before, but now I look back at it and think, what the hell was going on in my head? Anything I do now, I do it because I want to do it, or at least I try to. Sometimes I believe I'm doing it for myself and later when I think about it, it wasn't about me at all. I'm going to try to stop doing that. If I feel uncomfortable with something, it's up for me to decide, not somebody else. I don't want to be another one of the Paris Hilton look alikes.

I also shamefully admit that I've asked other people to do something's to change too. This is another thing I want to avoid doing. There is a difference between being asked an opinion about doing something before they do it though. But it's not always necessary to put your two cents in where it wasn't asked for.

So, my question today is, have you ever changed something for someone? Why? And, if you feel like putting even more of your story out there, what was it?


Sarah said...

It's so ironic you post this. I was just having a crisis where suddenly I was so unhappy about my body. I posted about it in my blog. Reading this reminds me that I should still be happy with what I've got, like I used to be.

Yeah, I'm short. Yeah, I have some extra weight. But I LOVE it.

Thanks for this. It really did put things back in perspective for me. I need to be me for me. I shouldn't have to change to impress anybody, especially since I already have everything I want right now.

Thanks, love. <3

Nicole said...

Anytime! I think everybody (especially girls) have days where they just wake up and look in the mirror and think "Ughh". But we also get those days where we think we look fantastic. I try to dwell on those days :]