In a recent poll, research showed that when a group of people were asked whether they would rather be loved or respected, the general results came back that many of the men would rather be respected while many of the women would rather be loved.
Now I know there's that whole "without respect there can never be love" bit, and the "if you love someone you do respect them", but suppose you could only have one or the other. Which would you choose?
I think women choose love because we always have these need to feel wanted by someone. We want to know that we matter and that someone considers us important enough to care. Many women in relationships end up taking the backseat and letting the man control many things anyway, so I don't think it would be as hard for them to give up respect as it would be for a man. As a result many women get pushed around just so another person will "love" them.
Men always need to feel dominant, or at least that's how I perceive it. They crave authority and power, and that's not necessarily a bad thing. They just end up being too stubborn to give in on most things because they always have to be right. (I too am definitely guilty of this.) The problem always comes when they decide to abuse the power, or never share the power on occasion.
So, as my question of the day, which would you rather have, if only given the chance to have one or the other? Love or respect?